Women’s Erogenous Zones

Most men think there are two areas of a woman’s body that are sexually responsive – the breasts and the vulva, clitoris and vagina. 

But in truth, practically every square inch of the woman’s body has the ability to become fully erotic. No man can consider himself a great lover until he has learned to explore and give pleasure to the full extent of his woman’s sexual potential.

To accomplish this, there are two techniques you must master: the dexterous use of your hands, and the kiss. 

Sexual pleasure is a combination of sensitivity and subtlety and wild passion. It’s the two things in combination that provide mutual pleasuring in bed.

THE MOUTH

The mouth is the most beautiful, the most sensitive, the most active organ you can reach while she’s still dressed.

The kiss is probably the single most important move toward the bedroom. It’s the key! It turns her on – or off – and, since life is a lot better when you turn her on, you can hardly do too much homework in this lesson of love.

• Don’t crush her lips against her teeth to show your passion.
• Don’t squeeze the breath out of her as you’re kissing her.
• Don’t try to ram your tongue down her throat in order to stimulate her.
• Don’t bite her lips.
• Don’t use a dry, birdlike, pecking kiss with no pressure at all.
• Don’t kiss with your mouth wide open and slobber all over her.
• Don’t drool as you kiss her.
• Don’t hold a kiss so long she can’t breathe.
• Don’t, don’t, don’t have bad breath.

Do cushion your lips against hers rather than pressing. This will keep your front teeth covered and avoid any initial hard contact which may offend her.

Do let your tongue just touch the area inside her lips as you brush across them, but don’t penetrate beyond her teeth at this point.

Do begin raising her sexual temperature with sensitive, probing kisses, then

Do proceed more boldly once you have established that she is enjoying your kisses.

Do let your tongue slip between her teeth until you touch her tongue. Withdraw and see if she follows you. Repeat this tactic until she is following your tongue as quickly as you are inserting and withdrawing it.

Do switch occasionally to nipping (not biting) her lower lip and sucking it in slightly between your lips. Vary the area coverage … kiss her ear lobes again … her eyes … her neck. (I particularly like the pulsating spot where the ear, the neck, and the jawline all come together.)

Do keep your tongue narrow and pointed, not broad and flat. Your tongue is larger than hers, and filling up her mouth with it may give her a panicky feeling.

Do notice any shyness about, or rejection of, your soul kiss. If there is, retreat from penetrating so deeply into her mouth. Start again slowly until you feel she is accepting and welcoming your tongue action once more.

Do kiss her again and again. Kissing is the first beautiful, intimate contact between a man and a woman, a preliminary quickening of each other’s senses and sensuality.

THE BREASTS

Breasts are beautiful, and men never let women forget it. However, women’s breast sensations can vary. Some breasts seem to offer little sensation, while some are so responsive that stimulation can create clitoral orgasms. 

Despite these massive individual differences, women are unanimous on one point: they don’t like their breasts being handled roughly. It seems that a depressing number of men are breast grabbers, squeezers, and biters. These are the men who are never going to know how to please a woman in bed, nor how to satisfy her.

Video – Breasts

One of the most effective methods of pleasuring the woman is to stroke the breasts, brushing your hands and fingers softly and slowly over the nipples. Then cup one nipple in the palm of your hand and move the hand in a lazy, clockwise motion, round and round, until the friction creates the beginning of nipple erection.

Now you can commence fondling the breasts more firmly while you maneuver a nipple between your lips. Alternate kneading and licking actions on one breast while you are titillating the other nipple with your thumb and index finger. This is sure to give her pleasure.

Kiss and suck the nipples, run your tongue around the entire nipple area including the areola (the dark area around the nipple).

Hold both breasts in your hands, bring the nipples closer together, and run your tongue across them in a rapid, flicking motion. This is a great way to arouse a woman on her way to the ultimate sexual pleasure. 

(Special care should be taken during and before menstruation, when a woman’s breasts are slightly enlarged and more likely to be ultrasensitive to strong stroking or sucking. Some women’s breasts are so tender at this time of the month that they can’t stand caressing at all.)

And by contrast, there are times, during the height of sexual pleasure particularly, when you can handle her breasts a bit more firmly. Not roughly – firmly.

THE CLITORIS

The man who knows how to caress a woman’s clitoris is capable of providing the greatest pleasure. You can’t consider yourself a good lover until you can bring orgasms from her clitoris as if by magic! This is indeed the best way to pleasure a woman.

The clitoris is the source of most women’s orgasms. Unlike the penis, however, it usually responds more slowly to sexual stimulation, and has a much, much lower pain threshold than your penis.

Here are some mistakes:

• Don’t employ direct manipulation on the clitoris in the early stages of arousal.
• Don’t stop exciting her manually (or orally) if you lose contact with her clitoris.
• Don’t stop stimulation at the point of orgasm.
• Don’t use the same tactile stimulation pattern for any length of time.
• Don’t assume that she is ‘all through’ after having just one orgasm. She may require more orgasms to satisfy her sexually in bed.

Being guilty of even one of these is robbing her of sexual pleasure. If you’re guilty of all of them, you might well be robbed of your sexual pleasure, too….

If you’re trying to please a woman in bed, always begin with indirect manipulation of the clitoris.

Caress the mons area first and then move on, after she is obviously responding, to the right and then the left side of the clitoral shaft and then back again to the mons area. It’s vital to vary your technique, as concentration on one area with a single technique can cause numbness, and nothing is more disheartening than a numb clitoris.

Avoid direct stimulation of the tip of the clitoris until just before her orgasm, and be sparing and gentle to avoid the possibility of causing pain. Some women can’t stand direct contact even then, so check this out thoroughly with her before leaping in with heavy fingers.

Make sure that the clitoris remains lubricated by using (1) the juices from her vagina, (2) saliva, or (3) an artificial lube. If you don’t keep her clitoris moist, those pleasurable sensations you’re creating will quickly turn to pain. 

And to please a woman and give her the greatest fulfillment and pleasure, you must satisfy her desire and need for continued stimulation during orgasm. So keep those fingers busy! 

Many a man has had the experience of lying there, happily exciting her clitoris, then suddenly finding himself unable to find it. Oddly, this means you are really pleasing her! A woman’s clitoris often retracts and even seems to disappear during the plateau and orgasmic phases. 

Don’t start feeling around for it, just keep on manipulating the mons area and clitoral shaft and she will continue to respond and will reach orgasm shortly thereafter.

Retraction of the clitoris during advanced excitation is normal. Continue stimulation to bring her to orgasm. After she has had her orgasm, wait a minute or two as her clitoris will be extremely sensitive to the touch. You may then bring her to orgasm again. Most women need either one big orgasm or a series of smaller ones before they are satisfied.

But don’t worry. After you’ve warmed her up with the first orgasm, the others can be attained relatively quickly.

THE VAGINA VIDEO

The vagina. Yes, it’s the altar at which men worship. From the day we come out of it, we connive, cajole, compliment, and buy our way back in. Men have lost fortunes, kings have abdicated, brothers have betrayed brothers, and governments have toppled – all because of this little cavern of joy.

Your woman achieves lubrication within ten to thirty seconds after you have initiated effective sexual stimulation. Until she has become moist and juicy, you cannot enter her.

And as she becomes more excited, the inner two-thirds of her vagina lengthens and becomes distended – ready to accept any size penis she’s likely to encounter. 

To test for lubrication, insert one or two fingers in the vagina. If she is wet inside, you may congratulate yourself on knowing how to arouse a woman.