Secrets Of Pleasuring A Woman Sexually

Some men think of foreplay more as “chore play”.

You know how it goes: your woman gives you that “come to bed look”, you spring to attention, and then you find yourself locked into – oh, as much as 10, or 15 or even (heaven forbid!) 20 minutes of kissing, caressing and cuddling before you can even get near her pussy.

Sometimes you find yourself wondering if it’s worth it, if the boredom of foreplay is just too much for the reward of pleasuring her with an orgasm, and why don’t you just use your hand – at least that would be a lot less trouble!

A Better Way Of Pleasuring 

What a limited view of sexual pleasure!

This is the woman you love, this is the woman with whom you’re in relationship, this is the woman who wants to pleasure you in bed. Unfortunately, perhaps, she also wants a lot of foreplay.

And many men do find foreplay a little, well, tedious. We all know that. But, with all your experience behind you, surely you can make things much more interesting? Surely you can get beyond the very male attitude that knowing how to pleasure a woman is all about knowing how to f**k her?

Let’s find out….

The Art of Pleasure

Pleasuring a woman is partly about getting into her mindset.

To start with, generally for her, sexual arousal and the pleasure of orgasm is something that comes more slowly than it does for a man.

So how about you find a way of arousing her which excites her (and maybe even brings her to orgasm!) without making you feel like you’d be better off watching the TV.

And the way you can do that seems to be oral pleasure. Cunnilingus. Going down on her.

You see, lots of women find oral pleasure the most satisfying (and easy) way of reaching orgasm.

For men in general, knowing how to satisfy your wife in bed is about discovering the techniques which will most reliably bring her to orgasm, and doing it with an intimate connection. And oral pleasuring does all of those things!

So if you’re looking for the best way to stimulate your girlfriend, then oral sex is high on the list. It’s an intimate act, it’s an easy way for most women to come, and for a woman it signifies that a man cares about pleasing her.

Now of course you know as well as I do that getting your face straight in there isn’t going to work. She doesn’t want you to do that, and she’s not going to like it if you do!

You need to arouse her to the point where she’s ready for intimate attention from your lips and tongue on her clitoris and vulva. And you can do that by kissing her on her lips, and kissing her on her breasts.

First, though, run your hands lightly and sensuously over her entire body. I’m sure you know that a woman’s biggest sexual organs are her skin and her brain. They’re both just as important as each other!

By delicately caressing her skin, and by kissing her, you get her mind and body ready for more intimate connection: oral pleasuring and penetration.

In fact, kissing a woman sensitively and delicately is a good way to get her aroused. If you kiss well, it won’t take long for her to want your attention elsewhere on her body. Kiss her delicately down her neck to her breasts. Then tease and play with her nipples with your lips and tongue. She’ll be turned on, and moaning with pleasure, in no time at all.

At some point you can ask if she’s ready for you to go down on her.  You may have a mutually understood way of asking her this. Or you may be very direct. It’s all a matter of taste.

For example: “Are you ready for me to pleasure you in your Jade Garden?” (Substitute whatever words you and she have for her vulva and clitoris at this point.)

Or, if it suits you better, something like “Can I eat you out now?” will convey your meaning just as clearly.

You’ll find that if she’s aroused, the taste and scent of her vulva and her love juices are going to turn you on.

Then, oral pleasuring becomes an exciting and pleasurable thing to do for her, whether she be your wife or girlfriend, rather than a chore.

So “chore play” really has turned into exciting and pleasurable “foreplay”.

Because, after all, men like to bring a woman to orgasm very much. Doing so makes us feel powerful, makes us feel sexual, and hopefully gives us a great deal of pleasure too.

So knowing how to please a woman orally should be high on your list of important sexual knowledge. If you want some information about oral pleasure, then you can click here.

But don’t stop after a few minutes. Why should you? Keep going until she reaches orgasm! When she reaches orgasm, hormones such as oxytocin and brain opiates pour into her system, and that makes her feel very bonded with you, which means she wants intimacy with you… and here, intimacy means penetration.

So then you enter her (perhaps guided by her hand), and you savor the moment. And you can then take your pleasure. Hopefully you have a reasonable degree of ejaculation control. That way, you can last for at least a few minutes before reaching orgasm and ejaculating.

It’s a wonderful approach to sex which is win-win for both the man and the woman, and it can give you and her great pleasure.

It avoids any difficulty that you might have about not being able to last long enough during sex to bring her to orgasm by vaginal thrusting alone. Why? Because she’s already had an orgasm. (And here, you should remember that very few women can reach orgasm through vaginal thrusting alone, even if it goes on for a long time.)

There’s a most compelling reason why this is such a good plan for male and female couples. The ideal length of intercourse as described by women is 10 to 13 minutes, but most men ejaculate in an average of 5.4 minutes.

So you have a choice. You can put a lot of time and effort into learning how to last longer in bed and discovering how to please your woman in bed. That way you can bring her off through vaginal thrusting.

Or you can give her oral sex, feel yourself becoming more and more aroused, enjoy her orgasm, take a brief break, and then enter her. Then you can really enjoy the pleasure, fulfillment and very satisfying sexual experience that a  fully aroused woman, really ready for penetration, can offer you.

Which would you prefer?