So many men in sexual relationships with a woman would like a clear answer to this question:

How to make your woman come.

Or, to put it another way, how to please a woman in bed. 

Sexist? Maybe. But that’s how it is – women expect men to give them an orgasm and men want to provide it. And whether you like the idea or not, this system works for many couples.

Or at least, it would work if it was easier for women to reach orgasm. So for you guys who struggle with the whole female orgasm thing, there’s some good news. You can easily give a woman an orgasm if you know what you’re doing.

So you can really feel confident, here are three techniques we guarantee will please her. They will also give you and your woman much greater sexual satisfaction.

But Before We Begin…

Many men continue to believe that a woman will have an orgasm just because a man (you, perhaps?) is f*cking her.

Forget it. If you haven’t already discovered  the truth, this isn’t a recipe for a woman’s pleasure, happiness or satisfaction in bed. Truth is, about ninety percent of women never come during intercourse by means of vaginal thrusting alone. 

And because this is the way things are, whether you like it or not, you need to do something about this!

Making sure you know how to please a woman in bed is important. You don’t really want her resorting to a swift self-frigging when you’ve ejaculated inside her and gone to sleep, surely?

You can be certain that problems lie ahead if that’s your way of “making love”! Most women would admit they are offended by a man who can’t be bothered to help them reach orgasm. Many women will only put up with this lack of consideration for a limited time. 

OK. So – you get the idea? You need to know how to get your woman off during lovemaking. And you’re not spoiled for choice, either. You’ve got three ways to do it, man: before, during or after intercourse.

One: Make Her Come Before Intercourse Begins

For some couples this idea – she comes first, before penetration – works really well. You, the man, can concentrate on pleasuring your woman, and she can really lie back and enjoy it.

And please don’t deny it, my friends;  you know making a woman come is satisfying for you! You just need to drop the idea that you can bring her off by thrusting into her. For most women that’s simply untrue. (Sadly, I suspect, that’s because most men can’t last very long before they ejaculate. Who knows what might happen for many women if their man could last longer during intercourse?)

A good approach here is for your woman to get her pleasure first. Yes, we know that you, as a man, really want to come inside your woman. And so you will – but only when she’s had her own orgasm first! 

You must pleasure your woman – bring her to orgasm – before you come! Oral, manual or toys are a great way to go….

Forgive me for stating the obvious, here. For those men who aren’t fully geared up to this new way of thinking, here’s a new plan. You can make your woman come, before you get inside her, in many different ways: using fingers, tongue, lips, other body parts, vibrators, other sex toys.

Not a bad idea, eh? And women love a man who knows how to give them sexual satisfaction and pleasure in this way. And after she’s exploded with pleasure, you both get to share that post orgasmic glow of satisfaction.

Maybe you even have a little snooze together before moving on to part two. That’s where you, dear men, get to enter her, thrust, and ejaculate.  

When you enjoy sex this way round, your partner’s well lubed when you go into her warm, wet and swollen vagina. Given her aroused state, you’ll both enjoy wonderful, easy and very pleasurable intercourse.

There’s another great advantage (for both of you) of having intercourse with a woman who’s just come. You may find that intercourse triggers further orgasms for her while you’re inside her.

And even more important, sex is better when the woman comes first, because a lot of men lose interest in sex once they’ve ejaculated.

A Great Way To Please Her In Bed

What are the advantages of this? Well, both you and she will feel fully sexually satisfied and pleasured. A woman will love you more for it.

And she won’t need to fake orgasm, so you really can feel pleased you got her off! Like most men, you probably get a lot of satisfaction when you know your female partner has had an orgasm thanks to you. 

Even better, this kind of sexual pleasure and satisfaction can spread out into your wider relationship. Good sex, with mutual orgasms, can help bond a couple more firmly. It certainly makes a man and woman feel closer, and helps them cope with stress of one kind or another in their relationship.

Two: She Gives Herself An Orgasm During Intercourse

Some couples are not so keen on the “she comes first” approach described above.

For whatever reason, they want to stick to the penis-in-the-vagina-produces-female-orgasm routine.  Well, we all need to believe in something. But with a little clit play, it can be a reality.

Some men feel that it’s a burden to “have to” give a woman an orgasm before intercourse. And although women might think they’re self-centred chauvinists, that’s how it is. I guess some men reading this might even be thinking “come on, that’s how it should be”. Fine, now let’s deal with it….

If you really must have intercourse without giving your woman an orgasm first, then do the decent thing – make sure she has one during intercourse.

This is easy if either you or she stimulates her clit while you’re thrusting inside her vagina. Let’s start here: with your woman fingering herself to orgasm during intercourse.

Men, as you know,  once you’ve come, you’re often not so keen to carry on doing anything…. sex tends to stop.  

So you believe in the penis-in-vagina route is the best way to please a woman in bed? In which case, ask your partner to reach down and finger her own clitoris during intercourse.

In truth, loads of couple find this a wonderful way to make love – because it works. It puts the woman in the driving seat. It overcomes the obvious fact that a woman’s clitoris doesn’t usually get stimulated during thrusting alone. And it puts the woman in charge of her own orgasm – which can’t be a bad thing.

In fact, most women who have an orgasm during intercourse do it by taking matters into their own hands.

Maybe you know about this technique already. But even if you do, why not make it a bigger part of your lovemaking? After all, your woman knows how best to pleasure a woman. No wonder, whe’s been stimulating herself for a long time! She knows which position she likes best, and she knows what needs to happen for her to reach orgasm.

And this can be very exciting for you as the man, too – because you may well explode with pleasure when a woman comes while you’re inside her.

You get it? This might be an easy way for couples to enjoy the amazing experience of simultaneous orgasm. And I can tell you, a simultaneous orgasm is greater than the sum of two separate orgasms.  There’s a lot more feeling for both of you. This is a great way to give pleasure to a woman.

In this approach to sexual pleasure, the woman gets her vagina stimulated as you thrust into her while she stimulates her own clitoris. She’ll feel your excitement and arousal as you make love. That will intensify her own arousal and probably make her orgasm more intense. And any technique which really pleases a woman in bed is a good option, in my book!

Another thing – when her vagina can clench around your penis as she reaches orgasm, she my well find her orgasm is much more intense. And you almost certainly will. Find your orgasm is more intense, I mean.

But – and ain’t there always a but? – you have to let go of responsibility for her orgasm, for giving any or all women pleasure. OK men, listen up: I absolve you of responsibility right now – it’s no longer your job to make your woman come! There you go. Just accept that and you’ll be fine.

Three: The Guy Stimulates His Woman’s Clitoris During Intercourse

Now this really is a radical idea. Who ever thought of that?

But it’s an approach that can work really well. It’s a great way to please a woman in bed, and it can lead to simultaneous orgasm.

Technique Alert!

Because this isn’t an approach that’s mentioned much in any sex guides, here’s how to do it:

1 Start with foreplay as normal, whatever that means for you – touching, kissing, oral sex (but not to orgasm!)…. anything that allows you to get affectionate and aroused.

2 When you’re both aroused, put your penis into her vagina and start gentle thrusting. Don’t thrust so hard that you reach orgasm. Continue to kiss and caress each other.

3 With your penis still in her vagina, shift to one side, reach down and play with her clitoris. Watch how she responds to what you’re doing, and move your penis just enough to keep yourself on a plateau of arousal just short of orgasm.

4 When her orgasm begins, thrust harder, put the palm of your hand over her clitoral area and continue to stimulate it in time with your own rhythm of thrusting.

5 If you time this right, you’ll find that she starts to come, which then makes you come. Her orgasm is likely to last longer than yours. (A woman’s orgasm is usually much longer than a man’s.) This is a matter of experience and timing – there’s nothing wrong if your orgasm comes a few seconds after hers has finished.

6 Lie back and enjoy the bliss. Feel your own pleasure. Feel your woman’s pleasure.

For this to work, you, my friend, have to be willing to control your urge to thrust hard during intercourse. You need to engage in a more gentle approach until your partner starts to come. This requires a level of self-awareness about how near you are to orgasm. And we all know that can be difficult – we men have a powerful urge to thrust into a woman.

But you can choose to do it differently.

You also have to know how to stimulate her clitoris so that she’s going to reach orgasm. Of course if you have a good relationship you’ll know how to pleasure her in other ways, so you probably know all about that anyway.

Make a note, too, that your partner has to tell you honestly how near she is to orgasm. This isn’t necessarily in words, but through her movements and breathing. (And there’s no faking orgasm!) That way you can judge how much extra stimulation you need to give yourself during thrusting to reach the peak of your pleasure and orgasm at the same time she does.

Of course if you think sex is all about abandoning yourself to pleasure, you may not want to try this. It requires control, not abandon. Not all women like to give up responsibility for their own pleasure and sexual satisfaction, either. But it’s well worth a try.

Sure, this technique doesn’t always work. Sometimes men come quicker than they expect. Some men may not have enough control. Also, you may find it hard to reach your woman’s clitoris. In fact, you can always get to it; just figure out a sex position in which you can stimulate it easily.

By the way, gentle thrusting will keep you on the edge of your orgasm until the woman is ready to have hers. This gentle movement has its own reward. It can make your orgasm much more intense and prolonged when you finally come. That means your pleasure will be more intense and your feelings will be more satisfying.

A slight problem might be that your woman wants to be in charge of her own pleasure, in which case some tactful negotiation will be needed. And in fact many women have no problem with the man controlling both his own and her orgasm.

If you make this approach work, it can really show you how to please a woman in bed. Very satisfying!

So there you go, three great techniques which allow you to satisfy a woman every time you make love!

They are simple techniques which bring mutual satisfaction with every couple’s grasp, techniques which completely remove any excuse for not pleasuring your woman in bed!